Monday, April 25, 2011

Coming Out of the Broom Closet

As a younger generation witch, it is quite complicated to traverse the obstacles of the proper office etiquette. I have to be on professional terms with many people and I am extremely careful about ‘coming out’ at my job. However, once in a while I will meet a coworker who is open and inquisitive. It would be wonderful to reach out to this person, share insights with them, and ask about their own experiences with the Divine. Yet this harder than it might seem. It’s not that I try to hide my belief; I just like to make sure the person I am ‘coming out of the broom closet’ to won’t shut down from shock.
This year on May 2nd, 2011 it will be the very first International Pagan Coming Out Day (link to: If you are in any situation where you feel comfortable or ready to celebrate your chosen path, then this could be a very good day to do so. If you would like a little magical support for your special day, I have some tips below.
First, I would recommend choosing family or friends or coworkers that are non-judgmental and supportive. It makes it a much easier process when you have people around that won’t have a strong reaction. After some practice it becomes much easier to tell people who aren’t as understanding. Start out with something simple like, “I love to celebrate Nature and its rhythms. In fact, I honor the divinity in all of Nature.”
Second, try to wear some hematite. It is an excellent stone for grounding in any situation. It will help give you the strength you need to speak your truth.
Lastly, try doing a small coming out ritual before telling anyone. Cast a circle and envision yourself living openly Pagan. Imagine people smiling and embracing you for who you are. If you wish, light a blue or white candle for tranquility. It’s always easier to say something special in a non-stressful environment.
I think it is important for Pagans everywhere to celebrate their faith. I hope this day will give us all the confidence to celebrate it openly.

With acceptance,
Lady JessicÄ, the Moonmaiden

Friday, April 1, 2011

Know Thyself

I love fortune cookies! I always find a little piece of wisdom in them. I recently received one fortune that still sticks with me to this day. It’s one of those fortunes that is kept in a wallet for safekeeping and a smiling reminder. It is a saying written by Wayne Dyer, which states, “When you are squeezed whatever is inside will come out.”

It may seem an unoriginal statement to some. However, when I read that little note I couldn’t help but laugh. As an American, I couldn’t for the life of me figure out this saying. I kept thinking it was warning me against eating more Chinese fast food. That was not the case.

A little while later, I read Dr. Ben Kim’s newsletter (link to: and he explained the true meaning behind the saying. This fortune was reminding me how to figure out who I am at my very core. In fact, when I reflect on that message now I wish I would have understood it back then.

If you have forgotten or have yet to find yourself, well this is a very straightforward way of discovering who you are. When you find yourself in a stressful situation, take a moment, and observe how you react. When you are squeezed or pressured, whatever is inside you will come out.

What does this fortune cookie have to do with a magical practice? Well, it is my belief that the whole purpose of practicing Paganism is to learn about oneself. It is said that the translation of the words above the doors in Egyptian pyramids is, “Know Thyself”.

All of my magical training has taught me not only how to step back and observe myself, but that I can actually gain from observing myself in stressful situations. This doesn’t mean I find out that I am all sunshine and lollipops inside. I have been through very difficult and stressful situations that ‘squeezed’ me, and what came out was pretty toxic.

On the other hand, I have been squeezed by situations that brought out my very best qualities. Lately, the stress of work and my home life have put extreme pressure upon me. What came out of me was lethargy and procrastination. I wish I had something better inside, but the first step to any healing process is diagnosis. We must begin a journey by first identifying our current location, before we go anywhere else.

To know yourself, you must be willing to observe yourself. The easiest situations to observe are the least subtle, which typically include extreme emotional reactions. These situations have the power to show you the depth you have within. I vow to pay attention to the situations that squeeze me; I have hope that this awareness will help me learn more about who I truly am. So, who are you?

In self love,
Lady JessicÄ, the Moonmaiden